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Question:
Do you ever keep secrets from your spouse?

Choices:
Yes – there are some things that are simply better kept to myself!
No, I share everything with my significant other!

 

99% I share everything with my husband and 1% is not worst sharing so I keep to myself.

My mother taught me "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". So if a "secret" was something that might hurt my husband's feelings, or worse yet, make him angry, I certainly would keep it to myself. After nearly 42 years of marriage, there are secrets galore stored in my mind, never to be
shared. Why make waves after all this time?

I learned a long time ago honesty is not always the best policy

I guess you could consider them "secrets". There ARE some things I just don't share with him. If it's something that will change his opinion about a person, or something that he just doesn't need to know I don't tell. However....... if he asks me something about it because he has a feeling or whatever, then yes I do tell. I don't lie about it.

I remarried my husband in 2002, and one of the secrets to our happy marriage is that I know what things (especially stuff some people say) will set him off so I keep it to myself

We share all the important stuff, and I share more with him than I ever did with x-husbands....but some stuff is girl stuff. And even though one time he said to tell him if he looks like a dork.....I would never come out and say.."you like like a dork!"....but I do say things like those pants are a little too short.....or that shirt has seen better days....but he doesn't get the hint.

Hi, I am now widowed for almost 20 years. However there were things I would not share with my spouse. I loved him dearly and would not tell him things that might possibly hurt his feelings or cause him disappointment in any way. I am sure there were things he never shared with me. I do not believe anything that either of us kept to ourselves would have ended our relationship, it was mostly a matter of respect for each other and our marriage. Thanks for listening (reading). Bea

A girl has to have secrets...if it is something that would save someone's life, than that is different...but I am here to tell you that if you bare all to your mate, you lose self. Keep an air of mystery about you. I have to make myself not be an open book for him. When they know you and every move you make and every thought you have, you are no longer a challenge or interesting to him. But honestly, some things are better not aired or that is my opionion. Come on, even our mothers kept stuff from our fathers. We learn from our mothers and mine mother is a wise woman indeed!
Jackie0401

Of course. If we knew everything each other did it would drive us nuts. Somethings are best no spoken to Him or anyone. We are to guard our tongues. I try my best. Some husbands,I know of my friends, gossip more than women. If you do not want it told, keep quiet. Live happy.

If you keep it a secret, one day it comes out, then it's worse because it was a secret and you didn't let him know in the first place. Your conscious will thank you because you can forget about it after you have said it.

Only when I go shopping!

If we keep secret from our husband, why would we want to tell you

IF WE WEREN'T TOTALLY HONEST WITH EACH OTHER,OUR MARRIAGE WOULDN'T HAVE LASTED FOR 36YRS.AND COUNTING.I LEARNED LONG AGO FROM SEEING MY DAD LIE TO MY MOM AND HOW IT AFFECTED THEIR MARRIAGE..WE,JOHN & I VOWED TO NOT MAKE THOSE SAME MISTAKES.MY MOM WAS VERY PROUD OF US FOR LEARNING FROM SEEING.

My husband and I were both marreid to others. We both had alot kept from us in those relationships. We agreed to not keep things from each other. Whether it hurts or not: We talk about it and work through it if need be. We are husband and wife, lovers and best friends all wrapped in to one fanastic relationship. We've been together for 14 years and it's been working right along.